My Take on Confidence

Confidence is not just about how you speak or carry yourself; it’s about truly knowing what you’re talking about. When someone is confident, there is no hesitation in their words or actions. They command respect, not through arrogance, but through self-assurance. Confidence is not about speaking loudly—it’s about being sure of yourself, even in silence.

One of the best examples of confidence I think of is Priyanka Chopra. Out of all Bollywood stars, her name comes up first in my mind. Why? Because she worked hard, adapted, and proved herself. When she wasn’t getting Bollywood roles, she pivoted to Hollywood. It surely wasn’t easy for her, but she learned, evolved, and kept going. She doesn’t need to announce that she is confident—she simply believes she is.

The Journey to Confidence

I don’t think I am 100% confident yet. But looking back, I’ve come a long way—from a shy, timid girl whom even my family doubted would achieve much, to now having a career I love. Confidence, for me, has grown through experience.

One defining moment was when I realized that knowledge brings confidence. If I know how to make a website, I don’t rush through explanations or avoid questions. I speak clearly, I listen, and I engage. But when I lack confidence, I tend to speak fast, hoping to avoid cross-questioning. That’s when I knew—confidence is built on preparation and understanding.

The Myth of Weight Loss and Confidence

Many people believe that losing weight will automatically make them confident. I used to think so too. But the truth is, while weight loss can make you feel better physically and help you escape societal judgments or relatives’ taunts, it doesn’t necessarily lead to confidence. It might make you more comfortable trying different clothes or stepping into social situations without the fear of being judged, but confidence is deeper than appearance.

Self-acceptance is the real key. If you accept your body, you will be confident—no matter your size. I have lost 20 kgs, yet I still hesitate to wear sleeveless or short clothes. It’s not about the weight; it’s about how I perceive myself. Confidence isn’t something you get from a number on the scale—it comes from within. You can read more about my weight loss journey and how it shaped my perspective on self-acceptance.

How I Handle Self-Doubt

I believe in “fake it till you make it”—but only if you’re actively working towards real improvement. You can’t just pretend; you have to build the skills behind the facade. People might sense if you’re faking it, but by the time they do, you should already have developed the confidence to back it up. I believe in getting 1% better every day. Whether it’s learning a new skill, improving communication, or adopting a new habit, small daily progress makes a huge difference over time.

The Impact of Confidence

Confidence plays a huge role in both personal and professional life. When you’re confident, people believe in you. I think I sometimes lack self-belief, but I trust the process. I may act like I don’t care, like I’m relaxed, but in reality, I’m constantly analyzing and working behind the scenes. I wouldn’t call myself the most confident person, but I am definitely hardworking.

Confidence vs. Overconfidence

Some people thrive on overconfidence, but for me, being slightly underconfident pushes me to work harder. Take my job, for example—I have to present data to clients regularly. I know they will question me, so I prepare extensively. I anticipate doubts, back up my claims with competitor analysis, and make sure I have answers ready. Overconfidence would make me complacent; underconfidence keeps me prepared.

The Fine Line Between Confidence and Arrogance

Confidence is knowing your worth without needing to prove it to everyone. Arrogance, on the other hand, is loudly demanding recognition. If you want to see the difference, just ask someone about their success. A confident person will talk about their journey, struggles, and lessons. An arrogant person will simply boast. For example, Priyanka Chopra exudes confidence, while Urvashi Rautela comes across as arrogant.

Is Confidence Different for Men and Women?

Confidence is universal. It’s not about gender—it’s about mindset, preparation, and self-belief. Anyone, regardless of background, can cultivate confidence through effort and persistence.

Have I Ever Been Overconfident?

Not really. I’ve always leaned towards underconfidence, which in a way, has been my strength. It keeps me pushing for better.

Advice for Those Struggling with Confidence

If you’re struggling with confidence, make a simple promise to yourself: improve by 1% every day. Learn something new, practice a skill, or take a small step towards your goal. Even dedicating just 14 minutes a day (1% of 24 hours) to self-improvement will make a noticeable difference in a month. Confidence isn’t built overnight—it’s the result of consistent effort and growth.

Final Thoughts

Confidence is not about being fearless. It’s about having doubts, pushing through them, and preparing yourself so well that when the moment comes, you trust yourself to handle it. It’s not about acting like you know everything—it’s about being willing to learn and adapt. And most importantly, confidence is not about proving anything to others; it’s about proving to yourself that you are capable.

So, keep learning, keep growing, and let confidence find its way to you.